Your comment makes literally no sense at all. You act as if the friend was just some passive person with no options or choices here. To say that someone has to "leave their family behind and commit their entire life to you" is nonsense on its face. No one even said anything remotely close to that. You've presented a false argument, a false choice, and it doesn't make sense. You're making assumptions about "good and evil" when she said nothing like that.

You can do better. Be better.